Stranger1234 Stranger1234 posted June 8th, 2020 at 3:59 am to Help!. Viewed 669 times. Answered 6 times.

Hi there guys,

Just need a opinion about my vietnam gf.

I seeing her from last 2 years and things have been up and down. But from last 4 months everything went serious. We fell in love. We are looking forward to get married soon by october. Everything is working excellent. She is coming out my place. Cooking food for me. Looking after my health. Cleaning the house . Talking about our future babies and everything. Littlrly not demanding at all. If i buy her something she admires it but than tells me was not supposed to buy it and need to save money for our future. It really shows how much she loves me and really cares about me

BUT

Whenever I mention her that i want to talk to her family members she changes the topic. So many times i had to force her On that but because of the time difference between dubai and vietnam she says they are all asleep. And does not wants to talk about it. I have sent our pictures to her sisters through her fb which shows she does not have a problem at all but when it comes to video calling them or talking to her mother she always changes the topic.

She is supposed to visit vietnam soon and as she is promising she will be back soon.
From one end i can see she really loves me but on the other end when i realize she does not wants me to talk to her family is something which scares me.

So any suggestions guys?

Thanks

Last answered by MarkHanoi83 about 3 months ago.

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Photographer wrote on July 7th, 2020 at 1:38 am
Photographer

One white baby later and you'll be on the back burner?
That's my take based on others experience!

Photographer wrote on July 7th, 2020 at 1:39 am
Photographer

Or you could be lucky like me and have a devoted wife for the next 31 years?

Vanvan2 wrote on July 10th, 2020 at 3:35 am
Vanvan2

In Vietnam, meeting the family is a big thing & most couples would save it until they know where they're heading to with the relationship. Also, unless your gf's family has some exposure before, having their daughter dating or marrying a foreigner is not always seemed desireable compared to her just seeing a local guy in the neighborhood whom they know well and can always smack on the guy on the head if he ever treats their daughter wrong... I mean, there are many reasons for your gf's hesitance & the best way to find out is to ask her directly & let her know your feelings.

Photographer wrote on July 10th, 2020 at 11:04 pm
Photographer

Since you appear not to be versed in Vietnam!
One consideration might be that her family use Google translate as opposed to actually conversing on line in English?
Socio-economic norms are different in many developing countries. It is not unusual for relatives to chip-in on educating and/or sending the best candidate abroad to work.
Friends of mine worked decades in the UK driving taxis and manicuring to build a beautiful guest house/coffee shop back in their Vietnam hometown (I am impressed by their industriousness).
If your girlfriend is sole supporter of the family (which includes schooling, college, health, unemployment) who will continue with their support when your future wife is childbearing/raising?

Rose Dtht wrote on July 29th, 2020 at 5:46 am
Rose Dtht

In my opinion, maybe her family members do not support her to marry with a foreigner. And she is trying to convince them to understand and showing her happiness beside you. You can let her know that you can wait or doing something to have support from her family then she will openly share with you.
wishes you and your girlfriend all the best.

MarkHanoi83 wrote on August 15th, 2020 at 11:45 am
MarkHanoi83

Its impossible to answer, as every person and situation is different. The notion that “a vietnam girl” is one type of person that has one and the same manual, is a bit short sighted.

My experience;
I had a girlfriend (25) and met her mother; in hineside at that time she was allready cheating in my with another.

I had a girlfriend after that, that invited me to meet her parents after 3 weeks allready, but with no intention of marrying yet (21 at that time). We married 1,5 years after that and have been married now for 7 years.

Some every situation is different.

Under the positive assumption that your girlfriend wants to have a future with you, get to know more about her and her parents and her background. If the parents are traditional, It might be that she is worried her parents might not accept you as is. So maybe get to know their thinking, their culture, their concerns, so you can be better prepared for such a meet and take away any concernes.

With my wife, her uncle was against me, as he was sure that white foreigners cannot be loyal and trusted..... so only after we got married he was ok with me ;-). Her parents were offcourse also worried for such things, but received me with open arms and believed in me from the start. The fact that I understood some cultural things, spoke a bit Vietnamese, and eat and drink everything without a problem, also helped :-)

Good luck!

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